TOP CHARACTER STRENGTHS

HUMOR - ZEST - GRATITUDE

Joseph was a remarkable individual, born with an innate ability to find joy and humor in everything that he did. His ability to evoke laughter brought light into the lives of all those around him. Friends, family, and fellow soldiers could always count on him to lift their spirits with his quick wit and infectious smile. Joseph’s sense of humor wasn’t merely a personal trait—it was a flare that brightened the lives of those around him, bringing the best out of friends, family, and fellow soldiers alike.

Joseph developed a profound love for his family and an unyielding sense of duty. His bond with his wife was the cornerstone of his life, and the love they shared was a testament to his character—always showing gratitude, compassion, and unwavering support. His family was his sanctuary, and to them, he was a source of endless joy and love. He hung his wife’s moon.

Joseph’s camaraderie extended beyond his immediate family to his military brothers and sisters. As a leader, he was a pillar of strength and integrity. He held his comrades in the highest regard, honoring them with unwavering respect and a deep sense of loyalty. Joseph’s leadership was evident not just in his words but in his actions; he embodied the very essence of dedication and commitment that the military stands for.

One of his most admirable qualities was his knack for bringing out the best in everyone. He had an uncanny ability to see the potential in people and gently guide them toward their best selves. His genuine presence was a source of encouragement and motivation, inspiring those who served alongside him to strive to be the best they could be. In the words of one of his soldiers, “He believed in you more than you even believed in yourself. You knew that he truly cared about you, which caused you to strive to do better, to live up to what he saw in you.” He never said a bad word about anyone, and he always treated “his Joes” with respect.

A man of continuous self-improvement, Joseph was always striving to be a better version of himself. His commitment to personal growth and excellence was inspiring, and it motivated those around him to aspire for better. His journey was one of perpetual learning, fueled by an innate desire to achieve his fullest potential.

Tragically, Joseph Paul Bellavia was KIA on October 16, 2003, in Karbala, Iraq, while providing cover for a fellow wounded soldier. His loss was a profound sorrow to all who knew him, yet his legacy endures through the lives he touched. Joseph’s humor, kindness, and unwavering commitment to his loved ones and fellow soldiers continue to be remembered and celebrated. In every heart he touched, his spirit lives on, a testament to the extraordinary life of a truly remarkable man.

Character Strength Story:

GRATITUDE - Joe and I had been married for several years. Every evening, I would prepare dinner and make Joe’s plate, a routine I had lovingly started even before we married.

Joe, in turn, had a ritual of his own. Each evening, when I would bring him his plate, he would start to get up, act surprised and say, "Thank you, you didn’t have to do that." It was a simple gesture but filled with genuine appreciation and warmth.

One evening, as I placed Joe’s plate in front of him, as he uttered his usual words of thanks, I asked, "Joe, I have been bringing you your plate for years now, why do you act surprised and thank me every day when you know I am going to do it?"

Joe looked at me, surprised by the question, and then smiled gently and said, "Christine, I thank you every day because I want you to know that I don’t expect it. I appreciate that you do this for me."

I had not truly understood the importance of gratitude, but hearing his words made me realize the depth of his appreciation. It wasn’t just about the act of making his plate; he was showing me he understood the love and effort I had put into it, an effort that he recognized and valued and he simply wanted to show me his appreciation.

From that day on, the dinners seemed even more special. I continued to make his plate, and he continued to act surprised and thankful but now there was an extra layer of warmth and understanding. Joe’s daily "thank you" became a cherished part of our routine, a reminder of the importance of gratitude in our relationship. This became a haven of appreciation and love, where every "thank you" and "you’re welcome" carried the weight of genuine respect and affection.

In the end, it wasn’t just about the meals, or the plates made with care; it was about the gratitude that flowed between us. And every night, as we sat at our table, we were reminded that small acts of love, coupled with heartfelt appreciation, could create a lifetime of cherished memories.

Joseph wrote me a "if I don't come home” letter and in it he stated, "I only had one regret in life...and that is not showing enough appreciation for all the support you have given me through both the good and the bad times.", even in his last words expressing gratitude. 

—Submitted by Christine, Surviving Wife